Our feeling must be in our power. A person says: "I spoke like that because I was angry!" -- Yes, but why was he angry? One says: "I cry because I am sad. I cannot help being sad; the sadness comes" -- or: "I laugh because I feel humorous." Sorrow and mirth should be under control. The feeling of kindness must be kept as long as we wish, whatever obstacle we meet with. When this control is learned, then no sorrow can come near.