Graciousness is quite different from that wrong manner which is termed in English patronising. The gracious one, before expressing that noble attribute, tries to hide himself even from his own eyes. The reason why the great ones are gracious, the truly noble people, is because they are more sensitive to all the hurt or harm that comes to them by the unripe. And therefore out of their kindness they try to keep themselves back from doing it to another, however small in position.